well….

Okay, so I don’t always have a lot of tact. I can be very blunt. And very opinionated. And I may have hurt her feelings. But she also told me that she was glad I was honest, and she felt like she had to hear it. And I think our friendship will be better as a result.
Part of the reason I wrote it was purely selfish… she hurt me. And I wanted her to know that she hurt me and to know that it wasn’t going to heal overnight. But I also wanted her to know that I care for her as a person…. I think she’s a good person. She just makes bad choices once in a while. And in order for us to be close friends again… like we were when she first moved here… I had to tell her what I was thinking and feeling and observing.
So maybe I could have been nicer about it. Maybe I could have left out the part about all the bad choices and simply told her to enjoy being alone and to rediscover herself as an independent woman. Maybe I crossed a line. Okay….I probably crossed a line. But I honestly think it’s what had to happen in order for us to move forward.
Sometimes I act before I think things through, but other times I truly do what I think needs to be done… and that’s what I did yesterday. And I don’t regret it. I regret hurting her feelings, but if this truly does pull us through to the next stage in our friendship, then I guess it was worth it.